in defense of monogamy!

So often, I hear the same blah blah boring old story - That men are basically polygamous and that monogamy is unnatural. In these peoples’ view, marriage is the most unnatural arrangement of all. And I nash my teeth in despair!The standard argument takes us on a well-honed journey back to ancient times from caves …

My father who art in heaven, pt 2

About 20 years ago, I had a sort of vision, that at my father’s deathbed, our whole relationship would make sense and that he would reveal himself at a soul level. Even though I had dismissed this as wishful thinking at the time, I could see how that was now happening. Dad had been on …

I pronounce you husband & wife!

On June 22, the Summer Solstice, aka Midsummer Night, I had the honor of marrying 2 adorable friends of mine – Ben & Jaime -both young enough to be my children, intoxicatingly in love, ridiculously glamorous & earthy and authentic. That about sums them up! I had never performed a wedding before, so I was …

In honor of our 13th anniversary

In honor of my 13th anniversary – I meant to post this blog on May 8th –the actual day– but I fell asleep on the plane to NYC. That doesn’t sound very romantic! I thought I would write about how Casper and I got engaged – because it’s kind of magical – It is so …

The gift of vulnerability

All of us women, at some point, complain about our men –surprise, surprise! - How insensitive they are, how they never listen, how they don’t communicate well, how they have trouble with intimacy and difficulty being vulnerable. "They really are the problem sex!" is our age old mantra. Somehow, WE feel WE have it all …

Meeting my Soul Mate & my recipe for attracting one!

How I met my soul mate & my recipe for meeting a soul mate! On October 6, 1998 – on location, in Montreal, Canada. I had been cast in The Collectors, starring Casper Van Dien and Rick Fox. Per the director’s request, I came to the set a day early, to familiarize myself with the …